"Cubby" St. One Man

Questions & Answers

 

Q. How do I find out more about your services?

A. Text or call 314-954-4451, email cubbyStOneMan@yahoo.com, or fill out the Contact form. I will respond to all contacts within twenty-four hours, except for weekends and holidays. After asking a few questions about your ceremony, I will give you an estimate of the fee. Then we can set up a complimentary interview which will allow me to learn more about your hopes and preferences for your wedding ceremony, and give you a chance to ask me any additional questions. Once we agree that I will be your officiant, we will begin the process of collaboration to create your personalized and customized wedding ceremony.

 

Q. What do your wedding services include?
A. My wedding services include ceremony script consultations, revisions, and updates by phone and email; research and resource material; consultations with your musicians/DJ/videographer/wedding planner and venue staff as needed; ceremony rehearsal; officiating at your ceremony; and processing your license and certificate following the ceremony.

 

Q. How long will my wedding take?
A. The average length of a wedding ceremony is approximately 20 minutes, but we can make it as long or as short as you want.

 

Q. Can we have our ceremony at midnight?
A. You may enjoy your Wedding Celebration Ceremony at any time of the day or night.

Q. Can we have a non-religious, spiritual ceremony?
A. Absolutely! This is your choice. Many prefer a "spiritual" and not "religious" ceremony.

 

Q. Where can the ceremony be held?
A. I will work with you to create a "uniquely you" wedding ceremony - and that includes location.  I officiate weddings on the beach, or in gardens, in a park or by a pool, in your home or on a houseboat, in barns and on bridges, in churches and chapels, mansions and museums, hotels and halls, coffee shops and castles, at a B&B or a football field, in a tent or in a tree house! In fact, any place that has special meaning for you. You are only restricted by your imagination.

 

Q. How do I guarantee that you are available for our date and time?
A. A non-refundable $100 deposit is required to reserve your special date and time on my calendar.

Q. When is the balance of payment due?
A. The first half of the balance is due after I have finished writing the first draft of your ceremony. The final balance is due one month before the ceremony date.

 

Q. Do you require premarital counseling?
A. No. As your wedding celebrant, my job is to work with you to create a meaningful ceremony, and then to officiate at your wedding ceremony.

 

Q. Can we include elements of different religions and religious traditions in our ceremony?
A. Of course. These make for interesting, rich, meaningful ceremonies. I work with you and your various traditions to put together a ceremony that truly reflects your wishes.

Q. How many Weddings do you conduct a day?
A. St. One Man conducts only one ceremony per day. 

 

Q. Do you perform Same Sex Marriage Ceremonies?
A. Yes. St. One Man is known as the 'gay friendly' celebrant.

 

Q. Can I specify ceremony details such as music, readings, and vows?
A. Absolutely. My goal is for a wedding ceremony that is a reflection of the two of you. You will be given lots of options to choose from, and I would love to hear your own ideas. I like to personalise your ceremony in any way you like.

 

Q. I am divorced, and my fiancé and I have been living together. Do you perform second marriages?
A. Yes, of course. And if you have kids, great! I encourage you to include them. Family weddings are special, and have meaningful ways to include children, whatever their age.

 

Q. I'm shy - do I have to talk?
A. If you prefer, you can just say "I do." Or even just nod your head! I want you to be very happy and feel comfortable. Even those who aren't shy usually prefer to read their vows or to repeat them after the celebrant.

 

Q. How long before the Wedding Ceremony should we book your services?
A. St. One Man recommends booking your Marriage Celebrant as soon as possible. Even up to 18 months' in advance is not too soon. Doing it sooner rather than later gives you a chance to interview a few different Marriage Celebrants, and gives you the time to choose someone you feel comfortable with. Although St. One Man prefers to be contacted early, he is not opposed to working with you if you contact him on relatively short notice.

 

Q. What about last minute requests?
A. As long as there is room in the schedule, last minute requests are fine. I work well under pressure :-)

 

Q. What do you wear as a Celebrant?
A. St. One Man will dress in appropriate attire for your particular wedding. It depends on your ceremony style and the degree of formality.

 

Q. What are your rules as to photography?
A. I am very flexible, and cooperate with wedding coordinators & photographers. Flash photography is fine with me, and if you wish, I let photographers position themselves where they can get the best possible photos or video. (However, keep in mind, cameras on the altar area can be a distraction, and will also wreck the appearance of the wedding photos for everyone else, so this is your call.)

 

Q. On our Wedding day, what time will you arrive at the location and when do you leave?
A. Usually arriving about 45 minutes to an hour in advance, and leave when my services are no longer required.

Q. How is booking handled and how is the balance paid?

A. There are two (2) things you must do to have a guaranteed booking.

1. Complete the Booking Form (By email, nothing to post)

2. A non refundable $100 deposit or full payment.

You are booked when we receive the form listed above and deposit paid. The balance, if any, is paid at least four weeks in advance of the scheduled wedding. Only gratuities are accepted the day of the wedding.

 

Q. Is it possible to conduct a public ceremony if we are already privately married?
A. If you've been privately married previously, we'll keep it just between us. Nobody need be any the wiser.
 

Q. Why should we choose you to perform our Marriage?
A. There are many excellent Celebrants in the area so, although it's difficult to answer this question, I'll try to offer some points that distinguish me from other Marriage Celebrants:

• I specialise in, concentrate on, and am dedicated to, just one thing - your Wedding Ceremony.

• I am professional.

• My fees are realistic. You might be able to find someone cheaper, but as the saying goes "you get what you pay for."

• I am a very involved Celebrant. I believe my role involves more than just conducting the ceremony.  As soon as I arrive my work starts :-- Before the Ceremony begins, I make sure your Musician(s) know all of their cues, and- I review the Ceremony with your Photographer so s/he can get the best shots possible.- I make sure the Best Man, Maid of Honour, and anyone else who has a role to play knows what they need to do and when.- I'll answer any last minute questions you have. Basically, I help in any and every way I can.

• I'm relaxed. Many couples like the fact I don't rush through the ceremony. I take my time, and let you know what to do and say every step of the way.This enables you to relax and enjoy every minute of your wedding.

• Peace of Mind. Knowing you have an experienced, professional Marriage Celebrant who enjoys what he does, who's main goal is to make your wedding day enjoyable for you, and with whom you can feel relaxed, is worth its weight in gold.

 

Q. What happens next?
A. After you have booked my services:

• You will have email & telephone support.

• I will work with you to customize your ceremony until it's exactly the way you want it.

• You will have your choice of vows, readings, type of service, and many options.

• You are welcome to provide me with your own ideas!

• You can have complete access to my extensive resources of ceremony ideas.

• I will send you your finished personalized wedding ceremony script to review.

           (It's not the final draft until you say "It's perfect... We love it!")

Note: St. One Man receives several calls every year from brides who booked their wedding with a "cheap" celebrant and ended up scrambling to make other arrangements when the "cheap" celebrant either did not respond to their calls or cancelled without even offering a replacement. Whether or not you hire St. One Man as your celebrant, at least hire a professional with a long-standing reputation.

Please note: you are not officially booked, and your date is not reserved, until I receive your signed booking form and deposit. Thank you for considering my services!  

I look forward to participating in your special day!